What you need to do to gain outright respect from other people
People have so much respect for respect-pardon the apparent redundancy. Respect is quite a loaded term because it is a melding of different aspects such as admiration, honor, dignity, humility and integrity. For some it is more important than money, even love. But respect cannot be forced, it should be awarded to you naturally. Here are suggestions on how to raise your respect meter no matter who you are.
- Act respectfully
You can start by looking the part. If you’re a doctor then you should wear your white coat when on duty. People will show respect to you right away because you represent a noble profession of treating sick people if not saving their lives. If you are a regular guy, show courtesy to others which can be evident on how you treat the elderly. Do you help them cross the street, or find their way if they are lost? Another thing is behaving accordingly. Do you keep your voice low when talking with someone in a public transportation? Most importantly, do you show respect in treating others regardless of who they are? A simple greeting or smile from you will get you the same in return. As Michael Kerr puts it, getting respect by giving respect yourself is the same as the chicken and egg conundrum- you don’t know which is first. But just the same, better be the initiator.
2) Walk the talk
This is leading by example. Because actions as they say, speak louder. Your boss may give you advice from time to time such as being punctual to work. When he himself arrives in the office an hour earlier than your scheduled shift, he instantly gets your respect. As such, you will be inspired to go to work on time, if not earlier. Keeping your word is also another way to get people to respect you. Even if they say that promises as made to be broken, it still is a promise that has to be honored. When you make a promise to someone, he or she will expect you to deliver that promise. So when you fail to do so, not only do you disappoint that person, you also lose his/ her respect towards you. It is also the same as committing to doing something or someone. That’s why when a couple breaks up, more often than not, respect is also broken.
3) Give and take help
When you go out on a limb to help a person who is in danger, he or she will be indebted to you and respect becomes a direct result. But you don’t have to go to lengths of practically sacrificing your safety, or putting your life on the line for that matter just to gain someone’s respect. Even a simple gesture of extending assistance to a new coworker who is having a difficult time learning his tasks can leave a mark on that person.
On the same vein, asking for help can also earn you respect from others. For some people especially those who hold high positions in the society may he be a CEO or real estate mogul, asking help is out of the equation. They may see it as a sign of weakness. However, this is not always the case. When you are someone who seems to have everything figured out and one day decides to surprise people when you ask for help, others will appreciate that you are vulnerable regardless of your strong personality. Respect is maintained when you are honest with yourself and you are not afraid to admit your shortcomings. It’s also called being human.
4) Appreciating the good under not so favorable circumstances
Things in your life can get messed up that it’s easy to waste your energy and take the persona of Negative Nancy. When you choose this behavior, your negativity affects people around you. Only a few will try to understand or see right through you. It is human nature to get judged by our actions. To see somebody going through a difficult time in his/ her life yet manages to pull through and continues to find something to be grateful for, an observer can’t help but feel respect for that person. It’s a brilliant display of grace under pressure. It’s safe to even say that happy, positive people in general will not find it hard to gain respect from others. You get the same when you throw in humor to lessen the tension when things get heated up between two opposing parties.
5). Learning from others
A person who may be an expert in his or her field but keeps an open mind to other people’s ideas no matter how big or small they are is admirable. The humility is not only there but also the willingness to show others that he or she is not embarrassed to acknowledge that he still doesn’t know everything. And because you don’t let a fat ego rule your life, you may even reconsider a previous strong opinion after listening to a different perspective. You also award credit to a person who deserves it and not take all the accolades for yourself.
6) Standing by your principles
Each one of us has his or her own set of morals and values to live by. Whatever decisions we arrive at whether they go against the grain or gain support of the majority, you have to stick to them, suck it up if you will. You define who you are and you show people that you will fight for what you in believe for as long you are doing the right thing for yourself, it merits respect. That you’re not going to sell out just to please others, let alone change yourself in the process for the sake of deserves to be held in high regard. For example, you work as a telemarketer and one day you are pressured to increase your sales and do whatever you can to achieve it. You do not want to dupe your customers just so you can meet your sales quota. As such, you decide to quit because you want to uphold your principles even if you really need a job. That’s very honorable and respectable.
Once you have earned respect from any person, treasure it dearly like you would for a loyal friend. Let it be your anchor to guide you in how you conduct yourself in your everyday life.